Sunday, October 17, 2010

How I came to be Riley's mom 31 for 21 Day 17

I have always loved this story by Erma Bombeck.  Of course I had never seen it nor would I have appreciated it before Riley but that's beside the point.  I can't quite picture God up there picking babies to give to families but if he is I'd like to think that this is a good description.  I sure knew I hadn't been picked because I was so pure of heart. 

  After Riley was born it took me a long time not to be bitter and angry and then I realized that while he might not have singled me out for this duty God would be there to help me if I invited him to be part of our lives.  I try.  I try on a daily basis to remember not only to ask for help but to celebrate in all that we have been given.  To celebrate every accomplishment that the boys make no matter how little.  Riley addition to our family has taught us to enjoy the little moments along the way...  we already new how to party it up for the big stuff.

God Chooses A Mom for A Disabled Child
by Erma Bombeck

Most women become mothers by accident, some by choice, a few by social pressures, and a couple by habit. This year, nearly 100,000 women will become mothers of handicapped children. Did you ever wonder how mothers of handicapped children are chosen? Somehow I visualize God hovering over Earth selecting his instruments for propagation with great care and deliberation. As he observes, he instructs his angels to make notes in a giant ledger.

"Armstrong, Beth; son; patron saint, Matthew.

"Forrest, Marjorie; daughter; patron saint, Cecelia.

"Rudledge, Carrie; twins; patron saint.... give her Gerard. He's used to profanity."
Finally, he passes a name to an angel and smiles, "Give her a handicapped child."
The angel is curious. "Why this one, God? She's so happy."

"Exactly," smiles God. "Could I give a handicapped child a mother who does not know laughter? That would be cruel."
"But has she patience?" asks the angel.

"I don't want her to have too much patience or she will drown in a sea of self-pity and despair. Once the shock and resentment wears off, she'll handle it. I watched her today. She has that feeling of self and Independence. She'll have to teach the child to live in her world and that's not going to be easy."

"But, Lord, I don't think she even believes in you."

God smiles. "No matter. I can fix that. This one is perfect. She has just enough selfishness."
The angel gasps, "Selfishness? Is that a virtue?"
God nods. "If she can't separate herself from the child occasionally, she'll never survive. Yes, there is a woman I will bless with a child less then perfect. She doesn't realize it yet, but she is to be envied. She will never take for granted a 'spoken word.' She will never consider a 'step' ordinary. When her child says 'Momma' for the first time, she will be present at a miracle and know it! When she describes a tree or a sunset to her blind child, she will see it as few people ever see my creations.
"I will permit her to see clearly the things I see --- ignorance, cruelty, prejudice --- and allow her to rise above them. She will never be alone. I will be at her side every minute of every day of her life because she is doing my work as surely as she is here by my side."

"And what about her patron saint?" asks the angel, his pen poised in midair.
God smiles. "A mirror will suffice."


  1. Wow. I haven't read that before and now for the first time, only through tears. I so love our kiddos!!! - Amy

  2. I've never read that before...I think "Wow," is good.


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