Tuesday, October 18, 2016

31 Days of Down syndrome Awareness - Day 18






Tonight we celebrated my new job with my old office crew.   It was a great evening with really awesome people that I will always call friends.  I would highly suggest the book Bad Little Children's Books to my most inappropriate of friends.   Laughed until it hurt and then laughed some more.  I am going to miss this fabulous group of people!  

I am super excited about my new position  I have taken skills from all of my previous work and combined them with a whole lot of life experience and am now working as a Case Resource Manager for the Developmental Disability Administration.  I have lots to learn but I feel like this is going to be a really great fit for me.  Plus the insurance benefits are awesome and that makes  me super happy.  

One of the best things I have learned from working in a psychologist office is the official term for drinking with friends and laughing until it hurts.  Self care!  This is a great description for any time you need to recharge you parental batteries and hang out with grown ups.  All parents need to do this but especially parents of children with special needs.  All joking aside self care is critical.  You can quickly lose perspective if you never step outside your small little world and see that others travel similar paths.  Find joy in laughing at yourself and the crazy antics of our kids.  They are amazing little humans but it is exhausting work being a parent.  So take a break once in while and share a meal with friends and laugh.  It is good for your soul and you parenting skills.  

Monday, October 17, 2016

31 Days of Down syndrome Awareness - Day 17



Not sure how this happened over night.  


As a parent I feel like this one needs way more of my attention right now.  Its funny how it kinda bounces back and forth between the boys and who needs what.     Getting so big and hairy  but really just still a little kid.  So many responsibilities to organize and not quite prepared for it all.  He amazes me on a regular basis with his maturity  and equally amazes me with his disorganization.  This parenting stuff is complicated.








Sunday, October 16, 2016

31 Days of Down syndrome Awareness - Day16





Riley tolerated brothers game today.   Riley was not impressed with the rain and was ready to go home pretty much as soon as he got there.  Thankfully the rain didn't last long or Riley and Grampa were headed to spend some quality time in the car together.  I guess that wouldn't have provided some entertaining stories.  Riley always has his own version of things and mom is tired and so I'm taking the easy way out with a video tonight.  I captured him right before shower time but I assure you he has the bottom half covered...well at least his bottom.

Saturday, October 15, 2016

31 Days of Down syndrome Awareness - Day15

Riley loves to tell stories.  He was full of it on the drive home tonight so I thought I'd try to capture a little of it.  These videos capture a small glimpse of what it can be like to try to have a conversation with Riley.  There is often a continuous loop of topics.  Time is fluid and you may jump from today to yesterday to a week ago all the way back to preschool all in the scope of one small interaction.  It is pretty easy for our family to follow but outside of those of us that see him day to day the time jumps can be really challenging to follow.


Before you view this let me clarify that no one has died,  Rick has been his imaginary friend for several years and I have no idea where he came from, and Rex has no injuries.
















Friday, October 14, 2016

31 Days of Down syndrome Awareness - Day 14

~Live to Dance, Dance to Inspire~

 Anyone that has spent any time with Riley knows that this kid lives to shake his groove thang.  He has always been a music and dance kid.  I had previously tried a dance class that was happy to include him but the class was geared for typical kids.  There were a lot of dancers and it moved fast.  It just wasn't a good fit.  When we found Inspirations Dance Studio and specifically Mikaela we knew immediately it would be a good fit. 

We stumbled into dance class at a time when Riley was really struggling at school. Both socially and academically he was a hot mess.  There were weeks that dance was the the only happy place he had.  It was an hour a week where he was 100% welcomed and completely accepted for who he is.  Mikaela has amazing composure and is not for a minute fooled by Riley's "cute" routine.  She has very high expectations for him and knows he is capable of so much. It is a special balance when you can meet a person where they are, challenge them to be more, and all the time make them feel special and accepted.  


This is Riley's 3rd year taking dance.  He still loves it.  This past week has been a rough one with a lot of transitions for Riley.  After class when I checked in with Mikaela on how he was since it has been such a bumpy week she says "well it started rough but I just looked at him and told him I needed him to be awesome.  I don't want to be grumpy so Riley be the awesome kid you are."  He turned it around and decided he could join in and did much better.  There is something a little magical about dance that tends to bring out Riley's best side.  
  
Riley loves to be like his big brother.  Rex plays baseball, football,basketball...  those are things that I am familiar with.  Dance brings an entirely new experience to our family.  I think it is so awesome that Riley has found something he loves and he can do on his own in a meaningful beautiful  way.  Seeing Riley's dance shoes next to Rex's football cleats sums up the beauty in the differences in my boys. 



Inspirations Dance has a full menu of dance classes for typical and special needs students.  You can find the studio at Inspirations Dance Studio   and read all about the classes, schedule and the instructors.  I have added the mission statement below for your reading ease.   

Inspirations Dance Studio is a non-profit organization dedicated to teaching all ages and skill levels the world of dance. We pride ourselves in making sure everyone has a chance to express themselves. We have made sure to implement a variety of diverse programs including: financial options for low-income families and dance classes for people with special needs. We are here to serve our community with highly trained staff and encouraging attitudes. There are classes offered in floor gymnastics, ballet, jazz, tap, and hip hop for all ages and abilities. Everyone will have a chance to shine their brightest. 
~Live to Dance, Dance to Inspire~









Thursday, October 13, 2016

31 Days of Down syndrome Awareness - Day 13


Some days you just have to honor the journey.  We travel a lot of ups and downs but this kid is nothing short of amazing.  I love to look back over the highlights.  Here are a few of my favorites.  












Wednesday, October 12, 2016

31 Days of Down syndrome Awareness - Day 12

The National Down syndrome Society reports:  There is a 50-100% incidence of obstructive sleep apnea in individuals with Down Syndrome, with almost 60% of children with Down syndrome having abnormal sleep studies by age 3.5 - 4 years. The overall incidence of obstructive sleep apnea increases as children grow older.


Riley was diagnosed with sleep apnea just over a year ago.  We started using the CPAP at home in late August right before he started 3rd grade.  A year later and we are still tired.  We are still struggling with Riley's sleep.  We have certainly made progress and over all he tolerates the CPAP amazingly well.   I truly believe that if we could get him to sleep well on a regular basis that we would see a huge impact on his behavior and his attention at school.

 We cycle up and down with how long he will wear the mask and how many apnea it is reporting he is still having each night.  We have not found the magic combination of pressure and mask for him.  Last Friday we picked up a new mask for him to try.  This one covers his mouth and nose instead of the old one that only covered his nose.   His mouth was opening a lot while he slept and that breaks the seal so the air comes rushing out his mouth instead of keeping his airway open.  The real issue is the noise its makes and the fact that it wakes him up.  Having him wake up is BAD especially since if he's awake then I'm awake.   You'd be stubborn and grumpy too if you were making up multiple times every hour.  Riley and I have a solid excuse for our sassy attitudes.

If we are on a good cycle and he's getting good sleep for several days to a week then we see those improvements in behavior.  It only takes one night of horrible sleep and we are right back at the beginning.  The Dr. did confirm that its not just in my head that it only takes one night to put us back at the beginning having to build on that good sleep again.

We will eventually find the magic combination of mask and pressure setting.  I live by the motto that we need to pick our battles with Riley.  I have picked this battle.  I just know that when we finally get it figured out we will all benefit from Riley's improved sleep.  It only took him about 4 1/2 years to be good with his hearing aids so I only have about 3 more years to go.

For those of you wanting a bit more info about sleep apnea and Down syndrome I pasted additional information from NDSS below.

















Why Do Individuals With Down Syndrome Have a Higher Incidence of Obstructive Sleep Apnea?

Anatomy accounts for many of the reasons why there is a higher incidence of obstructive sleep apnea (OSA) in individuals with Down syndrome. Some of those factors include: central apnea, low muscle tone in the mouth and upper airway, poor coordination of airway movements, narrowed air passages in the midface and throat, a relatively large tongue, and hypertrophy (enlargement) of adenoid and tonsillar tissues.  Increased upper airway infections and nasal secretions and a higher incidence of obesity further contribute to collapse and obstruction of both the oropharynx and the hypopharynx when the individual is sleeping. 

What Are the Effects of Obstructive Sleep Apnea?

Sleep disordered breathing has been shown to affect cognitive abilities, behavior, growth rate and more the more serious consequences of pulmonary hypertension (abnormally high blood pressure in the arteries of the lungs) and cor pulmonale (failure of the right side of the heart). Because of the high incidence of underlying congenital heart problems in individuals with Down syndrome, there is a higher risk of development of the more severe complications. Abnormalities in pulmonary vasculature (the circulatory system in the lungs) also increases risk of development of pulmonary hypertension (abnormally high blood pressure in the arteries of the lungs). 
Unfortunately, the ability of parents to predict sleep abnormalities in their children with Down syndrome has been shown to be poor. A sleep study or polysomnogram continues to be the gold standard test from which to evaluate sleep disordered breathing and sleep apnea. Because of the poor correlation between parental reporting and sleep study results, the new American Academy of Pediatrics health care guidelines published in Pediatrics in 2011 recommend a baseline sleep study or polysomnogram for all children with Down syndrome by age four. Sleep apnea is often undetected in both children and adults, so caregivers should moniter sleep patterns in individuals of all ages, especially if there has been a change in mood, behavior or ability to concentrate.  

What Are Symptoms of Sleep Abnormalities?

Symptoms that are suggestive of sleep abnormalities include: restless sleep, snoring, gasping noises, heavy breathing, apneic pauses, frequent waking during the night, trouble getting out of bed, daytime sleepiness and excessive napping. Sleep apnea can also cause behavioral changes, including symptoms of irritability, poor concentration and impaired attention. Uncommon sleep positions such as sleeping sitting up, sleeping with the neck hyper-extended or sleeping bent forward at the waist in a sitting position are all suggestive of a sleep disorder or obstructive sleep apnea.

What Causes Obstructive Sleep Apnea?

Enlargement of the tonsils and adenoids is one of the most common causes of obstructive sleep apnea in children. However, other causes of obstruction such as chronic rhinorrhea and congestion, nasal septal deviation, and nasal turbinate enlargement need to be assessed and treated. If the oral exam shows edema of the posterior pharyngeal wall, thus decreasing the size of the posterior pharyngeal airway, gastro-esophageal reflux (GERD) or chronic post-nasal drainage should be considered. Treatment with anti-reflux medications and/or decongestants, nasal steroid sprays and antihistamines can sometimes be helpful.