Tuesday, September 2, 2014

You Stink... OMG why do you stink and other "Rileyisims"

Once we finally had Riley's IEP settled and we knew he'd be attending our neighborhood school I thought that I had relaxed a bit about this transition to 2nd grade.  I've got to admit that I'm a bit amped up tonight.  Several people have told me I need to update by blog so here is my attempt at calming the crazy thoughts racing around.  If nothing else a good laugh helps everyone.

It has been quite a summer waiting for the IEP to be settled.  I am really pleased with our final version.  Riley will spend the majority of his day with his typical peers.  He will be pulled out to the resource room for 30 minutes each of reading, writing, and math and a few other small goals including time for speech, OT and PT on a weekly basis and he will spend approximately 80% of his time with his class.  I think this is a great starting point for Riley.  He will tell us quickly with his behavior if this is a good fit.

We were able to meet his teacher last week and tour the new school and see the classroom.  I was very thankful that we were able to do this.  The teacher seems like a good fit and seems really open to working with us towards a successful year.  I was really really honest about Riley's behavior and how bad it can be at time.  She didn't flinch so I'm hopeful that she really is open to Riley being in her room.

When I say Riley can be horrible at times I don't think people really comprehend what I mean.  He isn't aggressive thankfully.  I don't think he will be a student that they will have to clear the room for. But he does get very creative in looking for ways out of work that is challenging.

The best, and possibly the funniest, example of this I can share was a week this summer when he was working with his tutor.  Thankfully Michelle has an awesome sense of humor and a ton of experience with kids way worse so she isn't phased by Riley's creativity.  She saw him two days in a row... on Wednesday he was horrible to the point that he tried to get out of work by wetting his pants.  Go ahead and gasp... I did.  Not something he has ever tried before or after and it didn't work.  He still had to finish his work.  So Thursday the ever diligent Michelle returns to the scene of the crime  our house to work with Riley.  He is much better but still not great.  The behaviors are a bit better but he decides to go the way of his quick wit to get out of work.  She left me a note and I'll quote this just to make sure I don't miss anything.

Really trying to ignore his attitude today, but thought I would share his one-liners.  

  • "That answer is rude.  I can't write rude answers!"
  • "I will X it out, so I can't answer."
  • "You stink!!!  OH MY GAWD why do you stink!!!!!"
  • While reading one question in grammar it involved the teacher being nice.  He says " can't do it, it is just lies"
  • "It's my work, I answer how I want"
  • "you must read to me!!!!!'
  • When finally convinced to ready he did it in his hymn singing loud voice.
  • "You need a nap!!! Not me!!" 
  • "You driving me crazy!"
  • while reading his sheet he screamed "SHIT"   "I SAID SHIT"

Hard day to keep a straight face.

This effort took place over about 45 minutes.  He was impressive in his excuses and retorts.  I can just picture him waiting for her to respond.  He knows the value of shocking an adult and the distraction it causes.  The longer an adult spends responding, correcting or even laughing, (cause we all do from time to time) the less time there is to do work.  The power of distraction is a tool that Riley has superior skills using.  

When I told both the general education and the resource teacher a version of this story neither of them flinched.  I took it to be a good sign that they have thick skin and have the potential to deal well with Riley.  The worst thing possible for a teacher is when they think that Riley is cute and they let him use it.  He is cute... we get it.  But what is cute now when he is little won't be in a few years.  He is capable of so much if he uses his powers for good instead of evil.  

Tomorrow morning my boy blazes a new trail for himself at a new school.  I keep reminding myself that he handles these transitions way better than I do.  He has never had trouble making friends and engaging adults and I'm sure that this school will be the same.  He'll be rock star wherever he goes and I'm lucky I get to follow along for the ride.  

Since we already were able to meet the teacher I took my first day of school pictures a little early.  I'm hoping the biggest challenge tomorrow is helping him understand why his friend Maddy isn't at his new school.   She was at our house the day we visited and Riley loved that she was there to see his new school...  possibly he's convinced that Maddy will be at the new school tomorrow too.  If that is the worst I'll call it a huge success.  

Miss Johnson and Riley Fall 2014
Maddy reading to Riley in his new 2nd grade classroom

Look Maddy....  One, Two, Three

Maddy is such a sweet friend she even took her picture with Miss Johnson so Riley would.  


Thursday, October 31, 2013

Day 31 31 for 21 2013

Reading homework must be done before the Halloween festivities begin. Good thing Rex was willing to relax and read with his little brother because the short guy was refusing to read to me. 

Happy Halloween!  

Wednesday, October 30, 2013

Day 30 31 for 21 2013

Bip bop aka hip hop class has been way over thought in my brain. Riley loves music, loves to dance and know most of the lyrics to the really great songs like Thirft shop so I thought it would be a perfect combination to let him take dance class.

He had fun at times. Other times not so much. Class is roughly 40 minutes and I think the videos below sum up my thoughts.

So after watching this and then watching him so engaged and welcomed at wrestling today I withdrew him from dance. Did I mention he sat out the last 10-15 of class?

We'll continue to have our dance parties in the living room. I mean really how else will he keep up the potty mouth at school. 

Tuesday, October 29, 2013

Day 29 31 for 21 2013

Riley had Hip Hop after school today. I'll share that tomorrow.  After dance we ran to pick up Rex for wrestling practice. Riley super excited because he was able to go to practice too. He was totally engaged for the entire first hour.  Which is way more than he lasted in dance class. 

Wrestling is an opportunity through school that is sponsored by Gonzaga prep. Coach is an awesome dad who has wrestled forever. He has been great with Rex the last few years and encouraging him to really come out of his shell.  I've never been a wrestling fan. Something about the uniforms and sweaty boys squirming around on a mat yuck. I am learning to appreciate the lessons. It is so totally different from the team sports We have been involved in. It has really pushed Rex to grow and be brave. It's hard to get out there all by yourself. 

 Coach made a point of inviting Riley to practice and making us know Riley was welcome.  Wrestling is the only school sport that the kids can participate in before third grade.  Excitement us an understatement. We had talked about it before we got to the gym but he didn't really understand I guess.  He was ready to go play with the little sisters when we got there but when  I stopped him and told him he could go out on the mats with brother it was complete joy!  He lasted way longer than I ever imagined. His buddy Ella was a great partner in crime for him to practice his moves on.  

Monday, October 28, 2013

Day 28 31 for 21 2013

Riley had a pretty good day at school. Rex didn't have practice so the boys had some time on the trampoline before hitting the books. Those are Riley's best days when he gets his brother time. It makes the entire evening smoother.  Homework went fast tonight so there was time for an extra long bath with all his toys. Those tired eyes told me it was early to bed for the Ri man. Sound asleep by 7:15 is a perfect way to end the day and hopefully a good start to tomorrow. 

Sunday, October 27, 2013

Day 27 31 for 21 2013

Riley has been on a roll this weekend with his one liners.  He was all ready for church to be over this morning so he could get to the donuts and as not impressed when Father started in on a final prayer.  Riley gives this huge sigh and says GEEZ AGAIN!   

Sundays this fall have been consumed with Rex's football. This Sunday the kids played the Championship game against their biggest rivals, Cataldo. 

Riley was pretty sure it was time he join the team. 

The boys played a hard game but it didn't go the way they wanted.  2nd place is nothing to complain about but it's always hard to lose.  

The boys had a great season and learned tons. They have a great group of dads that volunteer to coach. They have taught the boys the fundamentals of football, how to play safely and most importantly they are great role models of sportsmanship.

No time to be bummed that football season is over since wrestling starts Tuesday. 

The pediatrician recommended that Riley not wrestle so even though the little guys can he wont be.  Coach invited him to come work out though so we will see how excited he is Tuesday when he gets to do warm ups with Rex.  

Saturday, October 26, 2013

Day 26 31 for 21 2013

Riley provides us lots of laughs.  Today we had a quiet day at home so I didn't think much of him being in the other room playing. He came running into the living room calling for me. I discover had stripped down to his underwear and some how found my pink sports bra. He had managed to pull it on in a side ways kinda way that made it very similar to Rex's wrestling singlet minus the shorts. He was so proud of himself and then immediately concerned because I was laughing so hard. 

Sadly no pictures were taken before he removed it. Oh that was a much needed laugh. Too bad you all weren't here to enjoy it but I'm sure you can paint a lovely picture. Oh I forgot one little detail the undies are inside out -  that makes it even better doesn't it. 

He then followed that escapade with the magicians cape over the inside out undies complete with hat and wand. 

Oh how I love days we get to stay home and relax. 

I don't have a picture of today but these escapades are pretty common in our world so here's a picture  from October 2011. He was testing out his Woody costume for Halloween.